Have you ever been curious about what goes on inside a man’s head after you did the deed but can’t talk to him about it?
Maybe you have been wondering about this for a long time now. Maybe it is just very recent, or maybe you’re sleeping next to him right now and just finished doing it. Whatever the case is, I know it is hard second-guessing and you just want answers, like NOW.
Men, unlike women, are thought to be less attached after having sex. Well, some may argue that this depends on the kind of relationship that you have with the man you slept with.
That is true, but, admit it or not, what they have been thinking after sleeping with you has crossed your mind at least once on your sex journey.
THE QUESTION IS…
Really, what do guys think after you sleep with them? Does he catch feelings with me? Does he think I am bad?
It is definitely normal for us to be interested in a man’s thoughts, especially after sharing an intimate experience with them. So, as much as you want answers from him, what could be holding you back is the discomfort of appearing clingy if you approach him about it, or it may simply be, uh, awkward.
As a fellow woman, I tell you, you are not alone.
So, don’t fret! I’ll give you some hints that may provide you with some insight into what’s going on inside his psyche.
Disclaimer, though, men are not at all the same. What I’m about to tell you may not always be the case, but hey, this might make things clearer on your end, just how it did for me.
Let’s delve into the inner workings of a man’s mind, shall we?
1. He is in a Happy State
Cute. Really, the sex makes them happy. Most of the time, men don’t read much about what happened. They are simply ecstatic and pleased with the roll in the hay. Some even get a confidence boost out of it.
If you are in a serious relationship with this person, he may then overflow with love and delight. One can only imagine the connection that lovemaking brings to a guy, and it is more than just the physical attraction.
2. He is thinking about Relaxation and Contentment
This pretty much seems common among men. After a wild night (or day), their body relaxes, and their contentment? It reaches its climax.
This is because of the hormone called oxytocin, which is released after having an orgasm. It is a hormone that lowers stress levels, which, in turn, aids in relaxation.
That being said, he may think about the relaxation and the feel-good that has resulted from having intercourse with you.
3. Being relaxed and tired at the same time, what he wanted to do next was to just sleep
Some of us may want to cuddle and talk more after sex, but some men may not feel the same.
Don’t take it personally. As mentioned previously, oxytocin facilitates the relaxation of the body. Having this would make a man want to catch some Z’s.
Without a doubt, the next thing they would think of after a fantastic night is to rest.
4. He feels Awkward
Have you considered that the guy is probably feeling awkward as well?
If that’s the case, you may be right.
A friend of mine shared that he felt uneasy and awkward after sleeping with a girl he knows from university.
For instance, he asked himself, “What should I do next? What if we happen to run into each other? Is it better for me to go now or stay?”
Yes, you read that correctly. They worry about such things too.
Your bedmate may be debating whether he should leave or stay, but thinks it would be too inappropriate to spoil the moment.
He could be worrying that you don’t want him to linger too long or that it is best to stay a bit longer.
5. He thinks about being emotionally closer to you
Although there are guys who don’t think deeply about what happened, there are some who do.
In such cases, a man might not think of inviting you again to “Netflix and chill” after the deed; rather, they may be thinking of dining with you, not you.
If he is reaching out, it could mean that he desires to be closer to you or wants to know you more.
With that being said, he is most likely planning where he will bring you other than his bed.
6. He is thinking about how to do better next time
They, too, can be conscious, you know. Men do not always think that they are the best, or that what they did to you was immaculate. Some might even experience performance jitters.
Actually, when I asked several guys about it, they admitted that they had thoughts about how they could have done better. One even joked about how he could have choked her partner even harder.
Perhaps he is thinking about doing better so that both of you can enjoy the best sex of your lives. It could also be about the positions you can try out with each other.
7. He might be figuring out whether you were satisfied or not
Most men want to impress a woman, especially in bed.
Having said that, he might be wondering if you enjoyed it as well. We all know that men reach orgasm quicker than women, and most of the time they finish first before we do.
This may prompt him to wonder if he performed well, especially if he is the type who wants sex to be both pleasurable and satisfactory to both parties.
Knowing that you are satisfied will increase his confidence in his bed abilities and performance.
To be honest, I think a woman would be lucky if her man had such thoughts because not everyone *ahem* considers the full satisfaction that sex could offer to women.
8. He is deciding whether or not to share it with his bros
We all know guys tend to keep count of their sexual partners and go brag about it to their friends.
This could be the case for your sex partner, especially if your encounter is limited to a one-night affair, booty calls, or the like.
I am not implying that all men think of this. Some men believe that real men respect women regardless of their relationship with them.
The point is, if they aren’t serious about you, they are more likely thinking about telling their buddies about his steamy night (or day) with you.
9. He sees himself not doing it again with you
Okay, I know this is kinda harsh. But, in reality, this happens.
Some men may refuse to do it with you again after the deed. He could be the type who dislikes having sexual activity with the same woman (I know, right? They exist), or maybe he is just not into you.
If you’ve noticed him distancing from you, it could be because he no longer wants to bed you.
He might also be implying to you explicitly that the sex was not a big deal as he doesn’t want it to get in over your head. He just doesn’t want to be put under pressure, especially if he is not interested in commitments.
Did you know?
Men on average seek a greater degree of distance after a short-lived sexual experience, and this applies across all regions.
10. He thinks it’s Fine
I lost count of the number of guys who said, “it’s fine,” when I asked them about their thoughts after sleeping with a woman.
It appears to be so straightforward, doesn’t it? They simply answered that there isn’t much deliberation going on in their heads following the sexual experience. Really, their responses rotate to just these two words: okay and fine.
Sometimes, the moment for them is just what it was: totally amazing. Nothing more, nothing less.
Even so, some men said that if they are in a serious relationship, it is okay. But if not, they feel guilty doing it with someone with whom they have no emotional attachment. Sounds like guys you need not worry about, isn’t it?
11. He is thinking of ways to Leave
Obviously, this is a good example of a guy who is only after the sex.
They usually consider such things when they are not in a committed relationship. That’s why after hitting it with you, he would want to hit the road.
But this may not apply to those in serious relationships, though. I mean, who would hit and run their partner?
For those who aren’t in one, whether he is in your apartment or you are in his, he might be planning on leaving or escorting you out.
12. He gets Shy
This is especially true for a guy who has no emotional attachment to the woman. “If we don’t have a label and we did it, I get shy,” one person I know confessed. He continued, “Unless she initiates contact again, I’ll feel more at ease.”
If this is the case for you, perhaps all he is thinking is getting a little boost from you. The guy you slept with is only waiting for you to take the initiative.
As much as there are self-assured men out there, there is also their polar opposite.
If you believe the attributes of the man I’m describing are similar to those of your bedmate, I’m guessing you know the drill.
13. He is thinking about the Chemistry he has with You
It’s not necessarily about physical chemistry. Yes, this is what brought you two together, but it is not the only criterion you should consider if you want to know if he is interested in you beyond the confines of the bed.
If you feel like you both complement each other well and mirror each other’s personality, he’s probably thinking about how amazing your chemistry is and how your relationship could lead to something more special.
Or, given the intense sexual chemistry you both experienced, the circumstance would possibly be him desiring to have a sexual affair with you again.
Either way, guys think about chemistry. Perhaps he is having an epiphany moment that he did not expect. The point is, he might be thinking about how well you two are in tune with each other.
14. It makes Him Miss the Intimacy
This is true for some men, particularly those who have previously been in a relationship or have been single for a long period of time.
If you know something about the guy you slept with (for example, know about their past relationship) and your sex was just incredibly casual, he might think about how much he misses the intimacy.
He thinks the activity is okay, but the lack of an emotional component to the deed may take him back to the days when his sex was laden with a profound emotional connection.
15. He does not Remember much of What Happened
This would be the case for you if your sex companion was very intoxicated at the time of the deed.
It goes without saying that alcohol has a negative impact on your mental functioning. Being wasted will cause a man, or any human being, to not recall much of the details, or they will not think much about what happened between the two of you.
So, whether the both of you performed the act while under the influence of alcohol or he was, he may feel indifferent about it.
16. He is thinking about whether to contact you again or not
You are not alone in this guessing game.
If you only had casual sex, there’s really no expectations that can happen at both parties, right?
But if he felt how the experience and you were perfect, he could be contemplating about hitting you up. If he likes you, it is possible that thoughts are running on his head right now about the steps or actions he should take.
Anyhow, the uncertainty of you, not feeling the same way, might be keeping him from doing so.