Having fun under the sheets, but still lost on how to please your man until he won’t want to leave?
Or maybe you’re starting to worry there are other places (ahem, women) he’s more interested in exploring?
Trust me, you’re not alone. Women all around the globe are constantly on edge trying to figure out what a guy needs, what they mean, what they like and don’t like, why they’re hot and cold, and just what do they want?!
Fret not. In this article, we’re going to learn all the things you can do to turn the tables and have him falling at your feet.
You don’t have to rely on luck for romance. Get the love and sex you want by learning how men think (and what they really want).
Here are 20 Things Guys Like in Bed but Won’t Ask For:
20 Things Guys Like in Bed but Won’t Ask For
1. Fashion meets Pleasure
Let’s start with the basics: men are primarily turned on by what they see, so it’s no surprise that you’ll naturally be more attractive to men when you dress attractively.
Men love when their partner puts an effort, but they probably won’t say anything that could offend you or make you insecure.
So pajamas, sweatpants, hoodies are all fine if you’re already comfortable with each other, but what’s the harm in switching it up from time to time to keep things spicy?
A little lingerie every now and then would be irresistible to your man, especially on special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, or really anything you find worth celebrating.
2. The Most Intoxicating Smell is a Woman
I mean, this would obviously only be true if you do try to smell good. Apart from dressing well, it’s best that you also put in the extra effort of smelling sweet, delectable, and enticing.
Taking a bath is the bare minimum, but you can also use lotion on your body or perfume behind your ears and on your neck.
Just don’t go overboard though! No guy wants a mouthful of lotion when they’re kissing you. That’s not exactly the “intoxicating” thing we’re going for.
3. No one Likes a Sack of Potatoes
…at least in the bedroom. Even you wouldn’t like a man who just lays there and lets you do all the work.
Try to participate as much as possible no matter what the position! Men like it when you move with them and are into it just as much as they are.
Let’s talk about how you can show them you’re enjoying as much as they are in the following tips.
4. Contrary to Popular Belief — men do like communication
Men don’t actually like sitting in silence, not knowing what you want either. It’s the same in the bedroom: you’ll be better off telling them what you like, what makes you uncomfortable, and what your boundaries are rather than keeping them in the dark.
After all, nobody having good sex gets it right because they’re not talking. Good sex takes two (or more) people who know what they want and aren’t shy to talk about it.
5. Sweet Nothings and Rough Begging
While we’re on the topic of communication, just remember that you can be vocal in more ways than one.
We already know men have quite of ego in the bedroom, so every little bit of moaning, gasping, and screaming can help them feel better about themselves.
If you go through the whole thing dead silent, he’s going to think he’s not doing anything right, so be sure to praise him for a good performance whenever it comes by.
6. The Eyes, Chico, they never lie
Eyes can sometimes do all the talking. Men love eye contact when things are heating up in the bedroom.
It’s a major turn-on to hold their gaze before and during intercourse. It lets them know your attention is completely on them, and you’re ready for the taking.
If you find it a little awkward looking into their eyes the whole time, staring at their lips, chest, and back at their eyes is also highly erotic.
7. Alexa, play Talk Dirty by Jason Derulo
If you’re feeling extra frisky and want to be more direct with your man, talking dirty can be more exciting for a lot of men, especially the ones with fantasies in their mind.
You can keep it simple by saying, “I want good, rough sex tonight.” But you have to admit, saying, “I want you to take me hard and fast tonight” sounds a lot more exciting.
Want a bonus tip? Many men rarely say this, but playing to their “dominate” fantasy is a huge ego boost.
8. Want Earplugs with that?
Now, talking during sex is one thing, but when you’re completely lost in pleasure — all talk goes out the window, and you barely even realize you’re moaning and screaming.
Don’t be too embarrassed, though! Men can hardly tell how well they’re doing if women are quiet, but just how loud should you be?
Simple. As loud as you can be. Worried that the neighbors will hear? Your man will consider it a huge stroke to his ego if even strangers know how good he makes you feel and how much you want him all night long.
9. Flattery gets you under the covers
Don’t believe anyone who says flattery gets you “nowhere”.
Compliments work wonders in any relationship and certainly pay off in the bedroom.
Men may already instinctively believe they’re some sort of sex god, and if you really think your man is one, paying him a compliment during sex could help him perform even better.
It can be as easy as saying, “you’re an animal” at the height of intercourse, but you can get creative! Every compliment will make them feel closer to you, not just sexually but also romantically.
10. What’s in a name?
Shakespeare really hit the mark on all this fuss about calling someone by their name.
Studies say that saying someone’s name in casual conversation helps build better rapport and maintain a good conversation, but in the bedroom? It’s incredibly hot, affirming, and wild.
11. Map out your pleasure
I’m not saying you have to put an “x” over your sweet spots, but definitely guiding your man where you want his hands, lips, and more will help your man be more assertive in what he’s doing.
They want to know what gets you going but will probably feel a bit timid or insecure to ask, but trust and believe!
Telling him what positions you prefer and any roleplaying you may be into would be a huge boost to his confidence and your pleasure.
12. Dominate me, D—
It’s probably no surprise that men like to take charge and be “the boss” either in the office or in the bedroom.
Controlling is a fantasy that many men want to play out with their partners but may never bring it up on their own.
But sometimes, all it takes is a few things that can get you started on dominant roleplaying, like handcuffs, blindfolds, ropes, and more.
Simply saying, “I want you to tie me up,” can do wonders for his arousal and excitement. Just remember to read up on safe BDSM practices if you’re feeling more adventurous!
13. Go a little rough
Men like to know what type of woman they’re in bed with.
Ask yourself, “Do I want to make a lasting impression that will make him think about me for days?” If your answer is yes (I hope so!), a surefire way to fuel his fire and focus only on you is to get a little rough.
Now I’m not encouraging you to gouge his eyes out or scratch his entire face, okay? Try pulling his hair or rubbing his back lightly, biting his lip, and sucking on his neck if that’s what you’re into.
Even the subtlest but deliberate actions can signal permission for your man to go a bit rougher with you.
14. Explore outside the bedroom
This isn’t that uncommon to do as a couple, but you’ll be surprised how many are restricting themselves to having fun only in the bedroom.
If you’ve been with your man for a while now, you both might be getting bored of only ever heating things up in your bedroom.
Some men like to explore: in the shower, your kitchen counter, the couch, the porch, or if you both don’t mind an audience — up against the window for all to see!
You can try surprising him sometimes by initiating sex in a different part of the house (or even outside).
If he’s into it, the excitement on his face will be your indication that he loves a spontaneous, adventurous woman.
15. Initiate sex yourself
There are plenty of stereotypes that we’ve grown out of as a society.
Both men and women pay for the bill, both approach each other at a pub, both gradually flourish in a predominantly male or female field of work. It’s just the same in the bedroom — a man likes a woman who wants to jump him just as much as he does her.
A woman who knows what she wants and goes after it in her man is a major turn-on. It doesn’t make you desperate; it makes you desirable.
16. Nobody knows you like you do
Literally, you know your body and how it reacts better than any other lover.
But this tip won’t exactly work if you yourself don’t know what you like. Although it’s extremely erotic to watch your lover pleasure herself, your man won’t buy it if it doesn’t look like you’re enjoying yourself!
Men fantasize a lot about women touching themselves, and it becomes more effective when their partner starts to play out this fantasy for foreplay. So when you’re ready to get hot and heavy, ask him to sit back, relax, and enjoy the show.
…him with oral sex. What a shocker! Men like to be serviced with oral sex, especially when they don’t have to ask you for it.
This is just about the highest compliment you can give a man.
Giving him oral sex as a “treat” or as a little gift every now and then tells him that you want him, even if it doesn’t lead back to your own pleasure.
18. Stimulate the erogenous zones
It can be embarrassing for a guy to have to ask you to kiss near his armpit or his palms if he’s into that, so he’ll most likely be pleased if you take the initiative yourself to discover his sweet spots.
A lot of these spots are tried and tested, like nipples, lips, thighs, and lower stomach — but there are plenty of other spots that go untouched.
Don’t forget to sensually touch or kiss their ears, wrists, and even behind their knees.
19. Help him last
This is an important tip that will be beneficial for both of you.
You want him to last so you can finish, and he wants to last so he doesn’t end up as “Mr. One-Minute Man” in your next brunch out with the girls. So why not help him control himself when he’s obviously having such a hard time trying to do that?
A few ways to do this could be:
1) asking him to slow down to draw out the sensation
2) telling him occasionally stopping feels better, and
3) just edging him before orgasm, stopping, and repeating the process drives him crazy for you.
20. Be open-minded
After all the tips you just read, honestly speaking, none of them will work if you’re not open to trying things that may be out of your comfort zone.
It isn’t just boring for a man to do the same thing every time you sleep together; it also tells him that you may not be the most responsive or considerate partner.
So be wise with what you try out together, have fun, and be confident!
Do you feel more confident pleasing your man after reading through the list? I certainly hope so! A huge part of making connections, romantic or sexual, is confidence in yourself and trust in your abilities to come through for one another.
So be wise with what you try out together, have fun, and be confident!
Feel free to leave a comment under this article for any suggestions or tips you have for others, too!
I just want one thing — to be able to sleep. Is that OK? Please turn off the lights and keep the chatter down.