Have you heard of the Sigma Male?
You also know him as the lone wolf or that mysterious guy who backpacks across the country on his own.
It seems we are hearing more about this type of guy these days.
And no, these are not men who only kept himself company because of the recent pandemic.
They have always marched to the beat of their own drum.
Their lives are not significantly affected by how others shift around them. A Sigma Man is his own man.
We’ve heard about the Alpha Male. He is brash and loud and is obviously the boss of the pack.
Then, there is the meeker Beta, capable but willing to take the sidelines.
So, who is this Sigma guy? How does he fare against the two more popular categories? Can you be a Sigma?
What is the Sigma Male?
Most people categorize men into two neat groups: the Alpha and the Beta male.
However, not every man falls under these two well-known types.
The sigma male inches itself into a unique social dominance classification having different personality type, which places it in a socio-sexual clause all its own. You will know him better by going through his personality traits.
To Better understand this Unique Personality Type, we need to check sigma male’s personality traits in contrast with other two popular personality types.
So Let’s dive into:
What are the Sigma Male’s Characteristics?
So, how can you tell if someone is a Sigma Male?
Here are some Sigma Personality Traits that are strongly associated with this type:
1. Sigma Males Walk Their Own Path
A Sigma Male has the Alpha’s strength, but he does not want to conform to the pack.
He would rather not be in a group if possible, not with how he views the world’s state is right now.
So, if you find a person who hates labels and does not want to follow strict social structures, you may be looking at a Sigma.
Some people may misunderstand a Sigma Male’s desire to retreat as a sign of a lack of ambition or as a sign of not wanting anybody’s company. This is not the case, though.
They step back so that they can manifest their dreams. Their reasons run deeper than they usually get credit for.
2. Sigma Males are Independent
Because a Sigma Male usually keeps his own company, it is no wonder that he has mastered self-sufficiency.
Sigmas do not appear to need much, as long as they have their basic necessities. Whatever the case may be, they can take care of themselves.
Independence here is not just about being able to take care of their physical needs.
They also do not depend on others to fill their emotional needs.
A Sigma Male can live without other people’s validation.
You won’t find them posting about their achievements and travels.
Instead, they will just live their lives without the need to inform people about them.
When they do mingle, you will see that they are equipped enough with social skills.
3. Sigma Males Prioritize Themselves
The previous point can easily be explained by the fact that Sigma Males often put themselves first. They may be introverted, but they are practical.
One way Sigma Males show this is by dressing comfortably.
They do not care what other people think of what they are wearing. Comfort always trumps style.
However, they may also choose to wear stylish clothes at some point.
The important thing is that they will depend mostly on their personal preferences, not other people’s own.
4. Sigma Males Hate the Limelight
From what you can see in the previous Sigma Male Traits discussed, they just do not like being the center of attention.
They would rather do what they need to do without the general public having to know.
5. Sigma Males are Introspective and Intelligent
Because Sigma Males prefer their own company, they can be deep thinkers who can assert a lot of control.
They examine their thoughts and plans before they take action.
They are not faultless, but they understand the wisdom of taking time to analyze any given situation.
Being introspective makes them likely to make intelligent decisions. Reflection also helps them tap into knowing themselves.
So, if you are Sigma, you are likely reading this article to better understand yourself and are closer to doing so.
6. Sigma Males Blend in Well
While Alphas tend to be loud and dominant, purposely attracting everyone’s attention, Sigmas are quieter and more mysterious.
They can choose to be silent in their corner, attracting other people’s interest without even trying. However, they can be flexible enough to blend in with any group.
Because they possess most of an Alpha’s qualities, they can present a quieter version of leadership.
That same quietness may also be interpreted as acquiescence for instances they are part of a team.
7. Sigma Males have Natural Charisma
A Sigma Male is naturally charismatic without even trying.
He does not hate people but is just comfortable with his lone wolf status.
His independence and self-sufficiency allow him to be such.
Women want to get to know him better because of this air of mystery.
He is silent but confident. You can see it in the way that he holds himself.
Are Sigma Males Rare?
Society expects dominance and power from men.
So, sometimes even the Betas and Sigmas are forced to conform in their corporate structures.
Sigmas would still be found sitting in a corner, possibly contributing an idea or two but not really relishing being the center of attention.
They are more challenging to pin this way because Betas may also step back to let the Alphas do all the talking.
With the advent of flexible job setups, Sigmas are finally free to rub off their corporate sheen.
They are more likely to get into the groove of the lifestyle they genuinely prefer without being encumbered by societal expectations.
Sigma Male Symbols
The Sigma Male is often compared to a lone wolf.
He stays on his own, away from the pack, but is still fierce and mysterious.
The Sigma is powerful enough to fend for himself and to attack if there is a need.
Unlike the Alpha, he does not need a pack to follow him around to feel good about himself.
Sigma Male Zodiac Signs
There is not one zodiac sign that is strictly associated with the Sigma Male.
However, a couple of zodiac signs have close enough characteristics to define what a Sigma acts like.
- Scorpios – are not your typical confident and friendly guy. Yes, they are self-confident, but they are also mysterious and not too impressed with authority. This does not mean that they are bad boys, but they are just content with what they have made of their lives.
- Capricorns – are confident loners. They are aware of their intelligence, but it is not something that they will flaunt. They are kind and willing to help even if they do not recognize what they do.
Leos and Sagittarians may also possess self-assurance, but they lean more towards being Alphas.
Again, there are no limitations on what type of Zodiac Sign you should have to be a Sigma. The two above are just the closest if we have to focus on the strict descriptions.
Sigma vs. Other Social Hierarchy Personalities – Which Type Are You?
Sigmas have been previously compared to Alphas earlier in this article.
But what about Alphas, Betas, Omegas, and Deltas?
How do Sigma Males fare against other personality types?
Sigma Males Vs Alpha Males?
Sigma Males may not be as loud and dominant as the Alpha Male, but they are every bit as confident and capable.
They can be leaders, but they do not like taking on roles to put them in the middle of a group or pack.
They do not have a clique or tribe like the Alpha Male.
Among the other personality types, the Sigma is the one with the ability to challenge the Alpha for social dominance. However, he chooses not to – most of the time.
Sigma Males Vs Beta Males?
Sigma Males may just be as quiet as Beta Males.
Both types do not have a problem with being silent in a corner. However, the Beta Male is part of the pack.
He is content with his own thoughts but does not have problems being part of a group.
Some may mislabel him as a bottom feeder, but the Beta is simply more in touch with his emotions.
The Sigma Male is also introspective, but he is more confident than the Beta Male. He also does not want to be a part of the social hierarchy.
Sigma Males Vs Omega Males?
The Omega Male and Sigma Male are similar because they are both self-reliant and confident in what they can bring to the table.
However, the Omega Male is not entirely a loner. He does have a small group of friends that he can confide in while the Sigma goes on his own.
Sigma Males Vs Delta Males?
While a Sigma Male may refuse to be part of the social structure of personality types, the Delta Male is resentful.
He may have been part of that structure – or is still part of it – but he is not happy with his life experiences.
You may even see him with the pack, but he is the one that often looks sullen and resigned to his fate.
On the other hand, a Sigma Male has chosen his place in society. He does not care if people within the pack will accept him or not.
Sigma Males in Love and Friendship
The Sigma Male may be a loner, but it does not mean to say that he plans to be alone forever.
He is naturally comfortable on his own and may not directly seek companionships, but he welcomes the possibility when it comes.
He approaches love and friendship at his own terms.
– Do Sigma Males fall in love?
A Sigma is a normal man with healthy wants and desires. He can fall in love, of course.
It is essential to understand that Sigma Males are every bit the equal of Alpha Males in the Socio Sexual Hierarchy. However, he has purposely placed himself outside of the structure.
This makes him even more attractive to some women because he confidently carries himself without blatantly using his charms.
The Sigma Male can undoubtedly fall in love. He also aspire woman.
In fact, he is so serious about it that he is not out there playing games.
A Sigma is more old-fashioned in his views of love. However, take note that he will not actively seek love and lust. He lets it come to him.
– Do Sigma Males have friends?
Like an Omega Male, the Sigma Male can have a few friends. However, he does not see it as a necessity but a choice.
Sigma Males and their Careers
The Sigma Male is associated with not being part of the pack. So, it is challenging to imagine him as part of a large company.
You may see him more as an independent worker who can set up his tools wherever he goes.
This does not mean that he does not have ambition. He actually has a more substantial chance of succeeding, being an evolved version of the Alpha.
He is flexible enough to work in various setups and fields.
He can easily be the leader, but a more strategic and quieter one.
Sigma Males already show quiet efficiency even when they are still at school.
– What motivates the Sigma Male?
You are more likely to find a Sigma Male challenging an Alpha for leadership if he sniffs some corruption at play.
While he will mostly shun being a public figure, he will set that aside in his quest to balance power and authority.
He is motivated with reasons that make a difference in the world. So, it does not matter if the position is under the limelight or on the sidelines. That is not his focus.
His focus is on what goals he is meeting by doing his job. A Sigma likes to make a difference. He is likely to work as a rebel going against a corrupt regime.
How to be a Sigma Male
At this point, you will know if you are a Sigma Male or not.
If you are a Sigma, chances are you just want to confirm a suspicion. Probably a friend asked you to take a look at the article. On your own, though, you do not really care about labels.
If you are not a Sigma, you may now be interested in becoming one. After all, who does not want to become a mysterious and attractive version of the Alpha?
These days, Alphas are becoming a dime a dozen, battling each other for a place on top.
They bombard social media with posts on their thoughts.
On the other hand, people cannot wait to know what a Sigma Male is thinking. After all, people still believe that silent waters run deep, which is the Sigma’s case.
– Can you become a Sigma male?
Yes, you can attempt to be one.
Becoming one, however, is fueled by years of experience. And you see, sometimes school boys are not expected to manifest as Sigmas.
People expect boys to act a certain way, but some already take their quiet stand early on.
Being a Sigma is not something you can force, but you can probably awaken the latent Sigma in you.
Here are some ways to incorporate a Sigma character:
- Accept yourself. Know that you don’t have to be always the focus.
- Practice not caring about what others think.
- If you are masquerading as a Beta, shed that mask. You can be quietly confident.
- Choose your friends wisely. Stick with the chosen few.
- Learn to listen. When you do, you realize that you learn more that way rather than by talking.
- Be self-reliant. Build up skills that will better help you survive on your own.
- Be more in touch with your inner self. Spend some time reflecting and meditating.
Famous Sigma Males
You don’t really get to know real people deep inside, not like popular characters.
With book or film characters, you know the main characters’ motivations and thoughts.
Here are some Sigma Males in popular media:
- Clint Eastwood’s character “Joe” in A Fistful of Dollars
- X-Men’s Wolverine
- Tyler Durden, the soapmaker, in The Fight Club
- Star Wars’ Han Solo
- Batman
In real life, some people suggest that Keanu Reeves is one.
He could be strong enough to be Alpha, but he paves his own way mostly alone. It is pretty refreshing, considering that Alpha Males usually populate Hollywood.
To Conclude…
A Sigma Male is your typical lone wolf.
He is independent, self-sufficient, confident, and strong enough to be Alpha.
He lets possible mates come to him, just like he does with friends and career opportunities. When these things come to him, however, he can be easily good at them.
He is flexible – a mysterious chameleon who can just take on a role that he feels strongly about.
You can motivate him with a mission or a crusade, where he will feel compelled to take part despite his qualms about being part of the social hierarchy.
Great take on Sigma.
This is ‘the true me’ in focus. I am a Sigma male.
i am a school boy and i am acting like a fool . but i see sudden change in myself . i talk less , ignore the fool and associate less . i googled and thats when i found about sigma .
i dont wanna flex but great information .
thank alot now i know the new me
IMHO i doubt zodiac signs have sonething to do with this. I know sufficient Scorpios and Capricorn. Why they aren’t much of a sigma male: Scorpio and Caps usually inflexible. Not all scorpios are good listener tbh. Both are introverts but not loners. Usually they are too cautious of risks and not taking them. But they resourceful rather than risk taker. Both signs have strong sense of hierarchy rather than not being part of it. If a sigma male would be a zodiac sign, I see a dominant Gemini or Aquarius would be them.
Aquarian Sigma, here – Yes.
Yeah yo right I’m Aquarius and I fit in perfectly into the the sigma shit asf 😹
I’ve always thought I was an intelligent and introverted alpha, but only shared some similarities to the typical alpha archetype. I recently heard of the term ‘sigma’ and was very surprised to discover that I shared every single trait associated with the term. I am a Leo/Virgo cusp, not aquarius or capricorn.
I’m a Gemini, very much so, and I’m definitely a Sigma!
I’m a Scorpio and I’m a loner I can easily put on a social front for a while I’ve done it in the past and I completely dominated the social hierarchy this was when I first discovered I’m a Scorpio and was just flexing my muscles the point is we can be very social but it definitely won’t last we’ll definitely have to revert back to being loners
Reading comments 🙂
My boyfriend thinks he’s a sigma but he’s not a Scorpio nor a Capricorn. I am. Should I tell him he’s a beta?
was hitler a sigma male
Sigmas do not seek power or seek to control people.
So, no.
Labels are useless unless u enjoy being categorized like a sheep and especially when such qualities are belching out ones mouth for others to use for manipulation tactics of empathy when at the end of the day smart people outsmart one another.
Found the sigma!
Well said. If one is fixated on “becoming” a sigma, well, then that one has already failed given the craving for this “title.” A true sigma male doesn’t seek a spot on the social totem pole. Instead we concentrate on bettering ourselves in the shadows rather than trying to be something we are not. Its not for anyone else but ourselves. Just an observation of some of these other comments stating they are trying to be Sigmas! They’ve already failed. SMDH
If there is a sign that aligns to being a sigma male, it’s a mature and highly evolved Aries man. Aries in general are intelligent, highly independent (even as a child), confident, brave, original, sexy, naturally charming, strong, and marches to the beat of their drum because they pave their own way. Conforming to the norms is not in their vocabulary because they’re naturally rebellious at heart. They have a magnetic and charming personality that makes it impossible for people to feel indifferent towards them. Although they appear as extroverts, they’re really closet introverts who love spending time with just themselves. Exploring the world on their own is what they prefer because no one is there to slow them down, especially when they love to move fast. Aries are true lone wolves. A young, immature and unevolved Aries would align more as an alpha type but when they mature and develop mentally and emotionally, you’re looking at a Sigma. However, not all Aries are created equal. A male Aries sun with Aries or Leo moon would for sure be alpha…but perhaps an Aries sun with a Virgo or Scorpio moon is definitely Sigma. When I think of a Sigma, I imagine a James Bond or Jon Wick.
I beg your pardon are you sleep ing very sure of yourself and to be quite honest with you you are an error. there’s no evolution of type you are who you are you’re born you’re not developed it doesn’t happen that way you’re missing for one either is a alpha beta Delta sigma or Omega. now you can maybe have a spectrum of traits during the course of what it takes to become a mature being but you are who you are have a good day
THE SIGMA MALE CAN BUILD AND RUN HIS OWN SUCCESSFUL COMPANY. OFTEN WITH MANY EMPLOYEES. HOWEVER HE WILL ALWAYS PINE FOR THE EARLY DAYS WHEN HE WAS STARTING OUT ON HIS OWN.
I am in a relationship with a sigma male and man, it can be difficult at times. We do not live together so I’m always wondering when or if I should contact him. I don’t want to be needy but I do want to keep the spark alive. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how often I should check in? Or should I let him make all the first moves?
A very helpful and interesting article you wrote, as I read the characteristics reflected on my personal characteristics, attributes and attitude as well.
Aquarius is clearly the dominate zodiac for sigma. No question.
I think all fixed zodiac signs (AQUARIUS, Taurus, Leo,Scorpio) are all sigma signs. Fixed signs is the more independent signs & rebels without a cause signs , basically all the traits of a sigma is a fixed sign. But Aquarius is the king/queen or sigmas just how naturally aloof & rebellious they are lol everyone can agree on that ! Aquarius definitely represents the sigma sign