Most women would probably agree with me when I say that despite gender equality, society still considers women as inferior to men. Why do I say that?
Take relationships as an example. While it is perfectly acceptable for older men to be in a relationship with younger women, an older woman having a relationship with a younger man is still frowned upon.
This is why most older women missed out on having good relationships. The norm instilled by society keeps them from expressing their feelings and thus makes it harder for younger men to approach them.
Despite this double standard, many younger men still prefer older women. In fact, a survey by the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) showed that a ginormous 34% of the women out of 3,500 single people (in both genders) who participated in the survey are dating younger men.
Modern women are now more sophisticated and not shy about expressing their feelings, but a vast majority still find it taboo to make the first move. This belief leaves younger men in squander.
Truth be known, we are no different from any other women. We are not that difficult to understand and decipher. We are just more subtle than younger women.
The big question is how younger men will know if older women are into them.
Today, I will reveal to you the secret.
There are many signs a woman wants you, but I personally grouped them into three – the body language, the conversations, and the behavior.
The Body Language
This is the first thing you young cubs should learn and understand. Body language can tell a lot if you know what to look for.
Have you seen the movie 50 Shades of Grey?
The movie emphasizes lip biting as a sign of attraction. Mr. Grey often tells Anastacia that she is turned on whenever she bites her lips.
It is true!
Touching our lips can convey a variety of moods. It could be fear, horror, uncertainty, and excitement. We feel nervous and excited whenever we are around someone we feel attracted to.
Biting or swiping our lips with our lips is a sign that we are interested and looking at the younger man as a potential lover. It is a sign that we want to kiss you and feel sexual desire.
So how do you confirm this?
Look at other telltale signs. Our eyes are a dead giveaway. If we touch our lips while it darts down to yours, that is a definite sign.
It’s in the Eyes
An older lady is more confident than a younger one, so do not be surprised if we maintain eye contact. We keep our gaze when we want to flirt with someone. Combine this with lip touching to lift the sexual tension in a sizzle.
But wait, there is still a handful of us who are shy and lack confidence. Some of us still are worried about the stigma surrounding cougar relationships.
The shy ones still give out subtle signs that they are into you. The more conservative older woman would usually steal glances when you’re not looking. When you try to capture our gaze, we would immediately look away.
Honestly, if you have the patience and stare at us long enough, we become flustered.
Exposing the Soft Spot
Our neck is the most vulnerable part of our body.
Did you ever wonder why vampires and wolves mark their mates on the neck?
My analogy may seem whimsical, but our neck is the sexiest part of our body associated with sensual foreplay. It is an erogenous zone, and we are not above using that to our advantage when we are interested in someone.
This one body language is easy to do. We would often wear clothes that would expose our necks. Another way is by tossing our hair back to bear our vulnerable spots.
Most women, regardless of age, tend to do this unconsciously, so you need to pay close attention. But, the more confident ones would do it blatantly.
According to a dating expert, touching is a girl’s way of showing they are attracted to you.
Younger women would probably hug you to show affection, but we are more subtle than that. We exhibit a bit of finesse when touching someone we like.
We could pretend to brush off a non-existent lint on your clothes, try to fix your tie or collar, or casually touch your hand or arm. If we are flirting, we become bolder by touching the back, thighs, or chest.
Do you want to confirm if the attraction is mutual?
We would reciprocate positively to your touch.
This is a bit harder to notice unless you are watching us intensely. We tend to mirror the actions of the person we are attracted to.
This shows we are fully engaged with you. Although we often do it unconsciously, it is still a sign that you have our full attention.
This is important for younger men to take note of. It tells you how deep our attraction is towards you.
We sometimes combine body language with words. The things we say and how we say them are also clear signs of our deep attraction to someone.
I Am Single!
We can do this openly or subtly. A more confident woman would not hesitate to announce she is single and available.
But then again, we do not want to be seen as too desperate. Often, we would tell you our relationship status more subtly.
Instead of babbling it out, we would casually mention that we only hang out with our girls or that we haven’t been in a relationship for quite some time. We use subtle words, but the implication is there.
Talking about our relationship status would open a window of opportunity for us to ask you about your current relationship. Mind you, we can do this subtly by using leading statements.
Example of a leading statement: “Why didn’t you bring your girlfriend?” or “You should have brought your girlfriend.”
We can’t be too careful, you know. We need to be aware if we should be worried about any competition.
Tell me About You
An older woman would not ask you personal questions if she is not interested.
We usually inject this in our conversation by using compliments. This would lead to a discussion about your interest, likes, and dislikes.
We usually test the waters by asking if age matters to you. We need to ensure that you are open to having a relationship with an older woman. Once we are sure, we could move the conversation forward by asking questions.
Our questions would be personal in nature, so you need to pay attention. We need honest answers that would indicate our attraction is reciprocated.
Once we are more comfortable with you, the questions become more personal (like your family and love life) and sexual (dating life and sex life). I’m sure by this time, there is no doubt in your mind that we want you.
Up Close and Personal
According to an article in Psychology Today, one of the main principles of attraction is familiarity.
When we are attracted to a younger man, we try to get up-close and personal. We do things to get your attention. If you notice us often popping up anywhere near you, it means we want your attention.
We can do this in many ways. We can cook for you, or share our food with you. We also text you late at night to show we are thinking about you.
We fear rejection and being ridiculed by others because of the age gap. We don’t want others to know that we are attracted to someone younger, but at the same time, we want to see if you are attracted to us. Close proximity will show us signs if you feel the same attraction towards us.
We Trust You
Trust is a big thing for us. Since we are older, we have experienced disappointments and betrayals. We will not share information with you that you can, later on, use against us.
Sharing our life and past relationship is not a comfortable topic for us. We only share a thing in our life if we truly trust the person.
If we discuss our life and past with you, it means we trust you. It is our way of giving you a glimpse of our life. We want you to know that you can also trust us and share your life and past with us.
We also show trust by talking about sensitive topics, like commitment and marriage. We only discuss these things with friends and family. Discussing these things with you shows our complete trust.
High Pitch Voice
If you haven’t noticed, when we are attracted to a younger man, the pitch of our voice changes. Our voices seem to sound in high pitch mode.
We tend to do this to grab your attention, make us appear attractive and younger, and make us sound more confident.
If you are not good at deciphering body language or conversations (though conversations are usually obvious signs), try to observe our behavior. The way we act and behave around you can tell if we are attracted to you.
We openly flirt with you.
We use body language combined with words to let you know we are flirting with you.
We often touch you and try to look attractive by twirling our hair, licking our lips, or batting our eyes. Our conversations often include sexual banters designed to lure you.
Watch out for our warm and inviting smile. We only do this if we are attracted to you. We also tend to listen to your conversation attentively.
Lastly, we compliment you for things that your acquaintances would not.
Hot and Cold Behavior
We tend to ignore other men, especially those of the same age or older than us. When we are around others, we take pains to ensure you know that our attention is on you and no one else.
Ironically, we make it a point to mention other men’s interest in us. We want to gauge your reaction, especially if that man is younger than us.
We are not playing mind games. We are too old for that. But, we need to know if you find us desirable enough to prompt you to ask us out.
Giggly and Childlike
We may be mature and confident compared to younger women, but we are not above acting like teenage girls.
We also get excited and giggly.
We act like a kid to the point of pouting. Being with someone young often brings out the inner child in us.
Like I mentioned before, we are no different from other women, but we know what we want. This assures you that our interest is not a passing fancy.
Dress to Impress
We dress to impress.
We may dress smartly and conservatively when in the office or other formal settings, but when out on a date, we dress in sexy outfits.
We wear clothes that would emphasize our assets to get your attention. We also wear alluring scents designed to stir your senses.
More often than not, we wear our hair up in a bun with a few tendrils hanging. This ensures our necks are exposed with the tendrils of hair emphasizing them.
Constantly Asks Your Opinion
What you think matters to us.
We always ask your opinion on almost everything. We ask you what to wear, what would be a good perfume, what color of lipstick to wear, and just about anything.
So there you are!
The 15 common signs an older woman wants you. Some of these signs are obvious, but a few are not easy to spot if you don’t know what to look for.
The way we exhibit these signs would depend entirely on our personality and self-confidence. We may show a few combinations of these signs.
Just remember, older women are more confident than younger ones. We also know what we want. When we flirt with you, it is because we really want you.