Are you caught in a dilemma about whether you stand a chance with a woman you’re pursuing?
Many men would gladly tell you, “Welcome to the club!”
“Does she like me?”
If this is your first time thinking through the question, then maybe you haven’t met a lot of women, especially those who would leave you at the edge of your seat, hoping and praying that she’ll reciprocate your feelings.
Maybe men are indeed from Mars, and women are from Venus. They think differently, but both are longing to be understood and loved.
Like a puzzle, you have to put the pieces together to demystify what the other person is thinking. You have to understand not only what’s being said, but most importantly, what’s being held back.
Let us break this into pieces until we get to the bottom of your query – Does she like me?
Decoding a Woman’s Body Language
Have you ever tried seeing beyond the facade of a person you’re talking to?
Most of the time, you’ll catch the truth of what’s being said, not in words, but the gestures of the person speaking.
Based on the Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) theory, when the person speaking tends to look a lot on the right, it means that their brain is creating or imagining. It typically happens when you ask for facts.
Looking on the right, in this instance, could mean three things – the person is only guessing, they do not know the answer to the question, or they are lying.
On the other hand, the person will look on the left when trying to recall or remember the answer.
They want to respond to the question in all honesty. Even though this doesn’t mean that what they would remember are the right answers, the intention is to come up with an honest answer.
When someone makes direct eye contact, should you immediately jump to the conclusion that they are into you?
Not yet. I’m sorry to burst your bubbles, but practiced liars have perfected looking people directly in the eyes when speaking to hide their real intentions or to make the other person believe that they are telling the truth.
It’s different, though, when the other person makes direct eye contact while listening. When they look into you with intent, this is already a sign that they are attracted.
What if you get a lot of wide-eye response from the person you’re talking to?
Hold your breath because you are getting there. Keep it up since it means you have passed the point of mere attraction.
They are now finding you interesting and appealing. According to some body language experts, widened eyes in women represents a welcoming gesture.
The opposite is true when a woman rubs her eyes a lot or does an eye shrug while you’re talking to them.
These signs mean they are tired, frustrated, or bored with what you are saying.
If you keep getting a lot of these signs of disinterest, you may want to change your tactics or maybe change the conversation subject.
That is if you still want to test if it could work despite the initial apathetic response you’ve got.
Is she trying to seduce you if she blinks too often during a conversation?
Blinking frequently while a woman is talking to you is a positive sign that she feels the pressure and excitement.
How many blinks are we talking about here?
Most experts say that the normal count of the average person’s blink rate is about 20 per minute.
So anything more than that, and you can start feeling like you’re on a roll.
The opposite can be said when the woman blinks infrequently or a blink rate of less than 6 per minute.
It can be due to boredom, especially if the person cannot focus their eyes on you.
If they give you a focused gaze but rarely blink, pack your bags and go home. They may be having negative or hostile feelings about you.
Personal Space and Other Gestures
You will know that a girl is interested when she faces your way most of the time when you are together.
If her torso is openly turned your way, she’s getting comfortable and confident in your company.
When a girl crosses her arms or legs often when you’re together, it means that she is holding back.
It could mean that she’s totally not interested or she’s merely nervous or shy around you.
Look at her feet when she’s sitting with her legs crossed. It matters where the toes are facing.
If they are facing your direction, it could signify that she wants to know you more and get closer to you.
A girl will also get closer to you physically when she’s already warming up, or you are getting her interest.
While this can be a good indication that the girl may like you, it will still depend on the personal upbringing and the cultural background of a person.
Decrypting Verbal Indicators that A Girl Likes You
Are women fond of giving mixed signals that men often find themselves asking – Does she like me?
They pop up the question not only to their friends but, more often than not, to strangers on the Internet.
The volume of the questions coming into a popular online Q&A platform, Quora, continues to exceed queries regarding losing weight or getting a promotion.
The next time you are with the woman you are interested in, pay more attention to what she says.
The clues you’re looking for may already be right in front of you.
When the other person takes note of your interests and begin reacting in ways that include – “I feel you,” “It happened to me as well,” or “I can totally relate,” they are clear indicators that they like you.
They are trying to look for the familiar things between the two of you.
They may be views, interests, places you’ve gone to or people you both know.
It means that they want to connect and build rapport.
When she starts giving you advice about something that you may have said even in passé, it means that she remembers the details of what you say.
It’s a clear sign that she’s into you.
You can prove this fact once she relates what you are going through with something personal that she has experienced.
She’s opening up and letting her guards down.
Most people won’t divulge details that are too personal and confidential to others unless they are interested.
Throwing Open-Ended Questions
You will know that a girl is interested when they often ask open-ended questions. It means that they want you to share more about yourself – your beliefs, attitude, and personality.
The opposite can be said when a girl would throw closed-ended questions. They may be feeling bored; hence they ask but are not interested in what you’ll say and well, about you.
Other Signs that A Woman Is Falling for You
What other signs should you look out for to know that a woman likes you?
Does she often mirror your gestures?
Mirroring means copying, although most of the time, the other person does it unintentionally. They find themselves drinking water when you do, combing hair with their hands when you do, your posture or body language.
If the actions are done subconsciously, it means that you two have a connection. If she’s doing the actions intentionally, it means that she wants to get closer and impress you.
Does she laugh even at your corniest jokes?
It feels good when someone laughs at your jokes, no matter how bad they are. When a woman laughs even at your worst jokes, it means that she doesn’t only like you, she has a crush on you.
It may not be the jokes, but hearing the words coming from the person they admire is enough to make them feel giddy.
Does she keep on teasing you?
Teasing is a way of flirting. It’s as clear as the day that she wants to get a reaction.
It may not be serious just yet, but it will get there if you play your cards right.
It’s a different matter, though, if the teasing sounds mean. You don’t need any more signs.
She’s not interested. Period.
Does she blush when she sees you or you tease her?
While it could mean that she’s shy, it could also be leading to feeling nervous when you are around. She feels self-conscious when you’re near because she’s interested and she likes you.
Does she initiate calls or text messages?
She’s into you. No other explanations needed.
These are only some of the signs to look out for in searching for clues about the “Does she like me?” question.
If they have given you hope that the woman you’re interested in is also interested in you, good for you. It’s time to step up to the plate and see where it leads you.
What if you did not see most of the mentioned signs that a girl is into you, but you intend to pursue her?
In this case, go with your emotions. You can always woo a person and show them your real intentions.
The best love stories do not always begin with love at first, second, or third sight.
You can always add chapters to your book unless the female protagonist tells you to stop.