Saying “I love you” is a commitment. Sometimes, however, some people have a difficult time saying the words themselves.
Are You One of Them?
If that is the case, you need to find other ways to express your love. Sometimes, non-verbal ways are more potent, more real. The person you love (romantically or otherwise) will feel your declaration.
Sometimes, the person already knows you love them, but this article can still help you reaffirm that love. An affirmation of love comes through different things.
Here are ways how to tell someone you love them:
Be Willing to Help
When you love someone, you can sense when they need help. Be sure to offer your assistance. Whether or not they will accept it, at least you have expressed your genuine desire to make things easier for them.
Use Physical Touch
Physical touch does not have to be romantic. After all, there are different types of love. Physical contact can be used to show caring, approval, and camaraderie.
When you pat someone on the shoulder, you show your approval and appreciation. A hug can make your mom feel better when she is having a terrible day. Holding hands with your partner shows that you are there for them and want to show the world that you care.
Of course, if there is no established relationship between you and the other person, you may have to be more careful with using this method.
Ah. With so many people caught up in their own devices, listening well is trickier than most people think. Ensure that the person you love can see that you are giving them your 100% undivided attention.
Real love also comes with a conversation that goes back and forth, where there is real listening going on.
Give Special Gifts
Special gifts do not have to be expensive. In fact, the most special ones are those that are well-thought-out. They could be handcrafted, made with your loved ones’ characteristics in mind.
It has to depend on the person receiving the gift, though. You need to know what people really want and give them that.
Ask if They are Okay
Asking someone if they are okay can come in many forms. It can be as simple as saying it to their face when you see them for the day. It should go beyond the usual, dry “How are you?”
Of course, you can also ask the person if they got home safely if you were with them for the day and they had to drive or commute home.
When you have not heard from them for a while, calling to check if they are okay also shows your love.
Spend Time Together
Gifts are nothing if you cannot even spend time with the person you love. Spend some quality time together. Quality entails not just sitting together and getting busy on your phones. It is all about making sure you chat with them.
On the other hand, you know you are comfortable with a person if you can put your hair down when you are with them. Sometimes, not talking is a conversation in itself, a non-verbal one. Long-term love makes way for comfortable setups, such as lounging in the living room together – quietly.
Show Your Appreciation
Whenever your loved one achieves something, make sure that you congratulate them. They need to know that someone is their number one fan.
Whenever they do anything for you, such as cooking or even just opening the door, say “Thank you.” It is not just a matter of manners, but also a matter of recognizing their own love language. So, you want someone to see just how much you love them? Appreciate the times they try to show you the same.
Use the Right emoji
When chatting with them online, use the right emoji. Maybe a starry-eyed emoji or one full of hearts can better show what you feel. Do not do it for everyone. This way, the person you love will see just how special they are to you.
Remember Important Details about Them
The thing is, you have to be listening to them carefully to remember important details. It’s like a two-step declaration of love. So, you must remember the things that they have said before. If they have bared their souls about their lives, at least take note of the details.
How best can you express your love than to show the person that you value the little things about them?
Be There for Them When They Need You
It is not love if you cannot go running to them when they need you the most. It can be a tragedy or even just a bad day. If you love someone, you are willing to give them extra courage during the most challenging times.
If you live too far away, just being there through social media, like sending a comforting DM via Facebook, can help.
Send Random Text Messages
When do you send text messages? If you send text messages only when setting up essential meetings, can you call that real love?
Well, you may be busy, but what about your free time? Do you send random text messages just to see what your loved one’s mood is like for the day? Do you just say “hi” for the sake of drawing them into a conversation?
If you are thinking of a romantic loved one, you can even leave them random love notes in places you know they will be passing by. Each message can focus on one thing you love about them. Or, they could simply say you love them in different ways.
I love you.
I love the way you make me feel safe.
The meal was delicious!
Let’s make plans.
Give Them Mood and Confidence Boosters
When you are in love, you observe your loved one. It comes naturally. You can sense when something is not quite right.
You will likely be the first person to notice a change in their mood. So, you try your best to do something about it.
Perhaps you can offer to cook or clean for them when they are feeling overwhelmed.
Maybe sending them a little note of appreciation can go a long way.
Listening to them when they want to share their bad day at work can also take away some burdens. Be careful not to judge.
Find out What Their Love Language is
Even though you love your romantic partner, relative, or friend, the way you express love will be different. The way you want to receive love will be different, too.
If you care enough to know what is comfortable for that special person, they will know how much you care for them.
Share Your Secrets
When you share your secrets, you let yourself be vulnerable to the other person. They have become your confidant. In a way, they have a hold on you. Not that you care because you love this other person.
When you share secrets with someone, you give the person some power over you. It is a matter of trust. The other person will feel that trust and will appreciate it for what it is. When they are ready, they will also share their secrets with you.
Apologize When You Realize You are Wrong
Your pride can get in the way sometimes, and apologizing can be difficult. However, you do it for the one you love because you are afraid to lose them.
Unconditional love does not focus on the self, whether it is romantic love or something else. It helps you accept your mistakes, wanting to improve yourself for the other person.
By apologizing, you also do not create a rift that could destroy your relationship. It means that you are interested in keeping it strong and intact.
Create a Love Song Playlist for Them
Once upon a time, lovers create playlists for each other. They make mixtapes. Because it was so much more difficult to time the other person’s favorite songs on the radio, the feat has become a way of showing affection.
Nowadays, though, we have Spotify. It is so much easier to add songs to a playlist. However, it still has a remarkable effect because you do have to handpick everything.
Creating a love song playlist shows just how much you know the other person. It may not be as challenging as it used to be, but the act of collecting songs shows your depth of knowledge about the other person.
Think of Their Needs during Physical Intimacy
If you are in a romantic relationship, you should think of their needs during physical intimacy. It should not just be a means to an end for you.
The experience should not just be sexual but sensual. It should carry an awareness of what the other person is experiencing. Make sure you are “giving.”
Don’t Be Afraid to Tell Social Media about It
If you are in love, you will tell people just how much you care about the person. It is not an infatuation that you need to hide.
It does not matter if it is Facebook or something else. Of course, you should also respect your partner’s wishes. If they want to be more private about it, then so be it.
Work to Resolve Your Relationship Issues
No matter what type of relationship you are in, you should be willing to resolve your problems.
Sometimes, it only takes communication to dispel misunderstanding. However, things can also get serious. If you think your problems are a little tougher to handle, you may consult a relationship expert.
Your willingness to save your relationship shows how much you love the person. Others will back out even if the problems are still minor. They are just simply looking for a way out.
Make Plans with Them
A plan can be as simple as scheduling a trip to the mall during the weekend. It can be as significant as going on vacation together. If things are already in the open, it can be a proposal.
When you make plans for the immediate or far-flung future, you show the person you love them. You want to be with them not just today but also in the future.
The other person will see whether or not you are excited about these plans.
Look Them in the Eyes
Show your love through your eyes. They are the windows to your soul. Do not hide them from the one you love. This way, they know exactly how you feel about them.
Tell the Person You Love Them – in Words
For some people, the best thing to tell them you love them is still with words.
Relationships, after all, should have open communication. They thrive in it and suffer without it.
Tell the other person that you love them while you still can.
Show how much you love your grandparents before they leave this world. You can do it through actions and presence.
Show any other family member that while you get annoyed with them sometimes, you love them. Write a note. Don’t worry if you will get teased for sounding cheesy.
Tell your partner you love them, and do it every day. Whisper it in their ears. Leave little notes everywhere. Send them random texts saying those three words and any other words that mean the same thing.
With so many ways to tell a person you love them, you no longer have an excuse. You can no longer say that it was uncomfortable or awkward.
Even if you feel embarrassed to say the words for fear of rejection, the other person cannot possibly reject your actions.
They can feel every inch of emotion in what you are showing. When you appeal to their love language, they can appreciate it.
So, yes, eventually, you may have to on that necessary and challenging conversation. For now, though, you can try some of the other ways of saying you love them.
When you show how you love a person, you can also tell how they feel about you. The silent exchange can give you as many clues with less anxiety on your part.
Go out there and tell the person you love them.