It can be a tough pill to swallow when a man finds out that his girl is cheating on him, but those who catch their women are the lucky men.
The unlucky ones never find out until it is too late or the woman decides to come clean – usually when she’s done with the relationship.
Indeed one of the most embarrassing things you can endure as a man is finding out the lady you’ve been heaping all that love and attention on has been getting nasty with another man behind your back.
The only thing that beats that is the uncertainty you must work through as clues surface.
You get that gnawing feeling when she steps out late in the evening, smelling like roses and looking like a full course meal.
The irrational fear that follows after you try to call her later that night, but nobody answers her phone.
The twisted desire that surfaces when you consider the possibility that your woman was having fun getting down with other men at the club while you’re back home watching sports or, if you’re like me and you work from home, trying to finish up work you put off earlier in the day.
It’s an unhealthy cycle that will eventually push you to accuse her of cheating, but if she’s a crafty and manipulative woman like many of them are, she can easily confuse you.
She leaves you wondering about the facts you presented and makes you feel humiliated when she cooks up a sob story full of excuses that you eat up because somewhere within yourself, you hope you’re wrong.
“Why would my girlfriend cheat?” you may ask yourself as you shave early in the morning before a mirror admiring the spec that is you.
The truth is it can happen to any man, the alpha male or not; if you’re not observant, the finger-pointing can go on forever, which is not exactly a healthy state of being.
You can only have peace when you know where you stand in her life. However, if she does not come to you with a confession, how can you tell if your girlfriend is cheating?
In this article, we will be talking about apparent signs that prove your girl is cheating on you, but before that.
You need to keep a few things in mind so that when things go awry, she won’t be able to get away by getting mad at you for invading her privacy.
LINES YOU CAN’T CROSS IN YOUR SEARCH FOR THE TRUTH
- Avoid eavesdropping on her phone calls; seriously, that is never a good look for a man secure in his masculinity.
- Do not, under any circumstances, snoop through her phone; it may help you get to the bottom of things really fast, but in my humble opinion, it just makes you look pathetic.
- Restrain yourself from trying to interrogate her friends because there is a good chance those ladies are in on it, and again, you’ll look terrible and insecure.
Another thing it is important to note is that there are different types of cheating. No, I’m not being cheeky, I’m dead serious, and if you don’t know that, then I can’t blame your girl for being a cheat.
The first kind of cheating is physical cheating, which involves contact between two parties. It is the most common form of cheating, but the more tricky form is emotional cheating.
According to matchmaker Susan Trombetti, emotional cheating begins when you feel comfortable enough with creating a strong bond with someone else outside your relationship.
This could include sharing your hopes, dreams, fears, and happiness with said person or feeling confident enough to trash your partner during conversations with the “friend.”
Emotional cheating is more difficult to detect since it happens much more slowly than physical cheating; however, it is just as debilitating, if not more.
Now that you are aware of the boundaries you need to maintain and the kind of cheatings there are, you may be wondering, “How will I catch her if I don’t snoop around or try to get her friends to talk?”
Well, you’re about to find out, and by the time you’re done reading, I guarantee that you will feel more at peace as you deploy the things you learn.
5 SIGNS OF A CHEATING GIRLFRIEND
There is no easy way to say this but catching a woman cheating will require you to put on your detective hats and be prepared for any eventuality because once you tumble down the rabbit hole of your woman’s infidelity, there is no telling what you might find.
The signs below are the best clues you will most likely find, but you must know that while these hints may point to her infidelity, they can’t be substituted for definitive proof.
That said, if you see one or more of these signs, it might be time to start asking questions and, perhaps, expecting the worst.
#1 SHE IS ALWAYS ON HER PHONE… EVEN WHEN YOU’RE TOGETHER
Gone are the days when you were allowed to get mad at a woman who is constantly on her phone because chances are you spend just as much time on your devices.
These days the smarter our devices become, the more time we seem to spend interacting with them, and by the time we look up from the screen, precious moments have passed us by.
Naturally, we all are guilty of this but keep an eye out for those times when your woman begins to spend more time chatting with her social media followers than speaking to you while you’re on a date.
A bonus tip: Snapchat is the enemy; never forget that.
As I was saying, if she makes focusing on her digital friends more than you, especially on days when you’re out together, a habit, then she may not be as emotionally invested in the relationship as you are.
I don’t want to say this means she may be planning to become dinner for some horny dude somewhere else when you’re not around, but we have all heard worse.
#2 SHE IS NOT AS INTERESTED IN DOING THE DEED
Granted, some people have preferences when it comes to having sex, but for every couple, there is a sex routine they usually follow.
If you’re not an addict like me, you may prefer getting it thrice a week every night, but if you notice that your partner no longer wants you to give her orgasm at sex-o-clock or is making up silly excuses each time, you may have a contender and might wish to investigate.
Find out if she’s simply too stressed to get horny or has your sexual life simply gone stale. Is she really too tired, like she says?
Or has she simply lost interest in rubbing genitals because she has someone else making those toes curl? Don’t get me wrong; her saying “no” on one night does not mean she started cheating.
However, you need to be aware of the sexual norm between you two so that when things start diverging, you can take some time to discuss it with her to get to the bottom of it all.
In other words, communicate.
#3 SHE’S TOO CONCERNED ABOUT YOUR SCHEDULE
If like everyone on this planet, you have seen porn actors in action, you’ll know that when they try to re-enact cheating scenes, they make sure their partners are out of the way.
Well, they took lessons from proper human behavior.
Suppose your partner starts getting overly concerned about your whereabouts, down to the timing. In that case, it is not usually because she wants to make you your favorite dish in anticipation of your return.
She may just be trying to time her infidelity perfectly. Do you get random texts asking about where you are?
No, she’s not trying to make sure you’re not a cheating partner up to mischief; she’s just trying to cover her rare end.
#4 SHE FLIRTS WITH OTHER PEOPLE IN YOUR PRESENCE
I’m no behavioral expert, but if she has no problems flirting with other men in front of you and it’s not an open relationship, it points to larger underlying issues like an insatiable ego and perhaps even insecurity.
It also means that she may be willing to go even farther than batting an eyelash when you’re absent.
If you’re in a romantic relationship, this is a big red flag, but if you’re like me and liberal with your thinking, you choose to wait for even more signs that your partner is cheating.
#5 SHE’S POINTING FINGERS AT YOU
Don’t say I told you, but paranoia is a dead giveaway that something fishy is going on.
If she starts acting up over seemingly innocent actions that she would have ignored normally, she may be trying to keep you focused on your alleged shortcomings, so you won’t have time to sniff out her infidelity.
Indeed, if you’re too busy trying to fix up and please that cheating woman, you’ll be less likely to question her shady moves, which work perfectly in her favor.
CONCLUSION
As earlier stated, these signs are not evidence of your girl cheating, and I believe that the best way to discover the truth is to be direct. Just ask her.
She may lie to you or throw the truth in your face; however, putting it all out in the open will be better for your mental health and will most likely lead you to the truth faster than snooping around or waiting for your girlfriend to slip up.
At that point, the question will no longer be “is my girl cheating?” but will be “now that I know she has been stepping out on me, what happens next?”
Fortunately, I don’t have to help you figure that messy part out, but here’s a quick pick-me-up, all wounds, yes, even that gaping hole you feel in your chest, heal with time.
Then you might also want to make her your ex-girlfriend because, as I always tell people, humans are creatures of habit, and if she could do it once, she can do it again.
If you give her a second chance, she may simply upgrade her tactics, which sets you up for yet another betrayal.
