Imagine you’re having a moment with someone more than a friend to you. Imagine you both are seated outdoors in a large oak tree shade in a beautiful park on a picnic.
The air is warm, and a slight breeze ruffles the oak leaves while birds sing from its branches.
Imagine the man/woman sitting opposite you is looking into your eyes as your conversation trails off.
Imagine that you suddenly decide the moment would be incomplete without a kiss, so you lean in, but as your intention becomes clear, the person pulls back with that questioning, perhaps even disgusted look on their face.
Suddenly the air doesn’t seem so warm anymore, and you just want the earth to open up and swallow you whole. This is one of the dilemmas that people who can’t tell when the other person they want feels the same.
I’ve been there; believe me; you do not want to be in that position. Not only is it an embarrassing look for you, but you may also have lost a great friend.
Listen, the most troubling thing about finding someone you like is that you never know at first if the other party feels the same, and in many cases, making a pass at someone who simply thinks you’re cool to hang out with will result in cringe-worthy moments.
We can all agree that people are not always upfront about how they feel, and it’s even worse when those feelings are romantic ones. This is why you must learn what cues to look for that hint at an underlying attraction.
Of course, the best and fastest way to find out is to ask; however, if you need to confirm that there’s a spark, you’re in the right place.
In this article, you’ll learn how to tell if someone likes you just by studying some subliminal signals and subtle intentional efforts.
8 WAYS TO KNOW THAT SOMEONE LIKES YOU
#1 He Leans toward You during a Conversation
Actions speak louder than words, but body language speaks the loudest. People will naturally lean toward a person they fancy during a conversation to remain in close proximity.
If the person you like tends to lean forward while talking or listening to you, chances are they like you. The other possibility is that they want to eat your face, which is highly unlikely no matter how sweet you look.
#2 He Angles his Body toward you in the Room:
As I stated earlier, body language is one of the sure-fire ways to tell if someone likes you, but that’s only if you know what to look out for.
Listen to sex and relationship therapist Courtney Geter, who believes that a person has more open body language toward a person to they feel mutual attraction for.
According to a dating expert:
“They’re not closed off, their arms aren’t crossed, and they can sit back and relax.”
Most importantly, pay close attention to how they angle their body. For example, their shoulders and pelvis tilted toward you is a good sign.
However, if they point their body away from yours, that’s a sign that you may be the one overthinking things, and they might not be all that into you.
#3 Keeps an Eye on Eye Contact
The eyes are the window to the soul. It’s that simple.
Eye contact is regarded by many as the universal body language that can communicate a lot. Men and women usually have a lot of it when they like a person, but there are a few rules.
These rules prevent you from looking too much like a weirdo, and the most important one is the simplest: don’t hold eye contact for too long.
Why? It can get really awkward really quickly, and the mystique leaks out.
A promising sign that the person likes you is when they look into your eyes, and you both maintain contact for a moment or two before suddenly looking away.
#4 They Act Differently Around You
If a person has feelings for you, one of the ways you can tell is by gauging how they act when you’re around and comparing it to how they treat everyone else.
Don’t believe me? Just ask Matthew Hussey, a dating expert at howtogettheguy.com.
When he spoke to Insider about the topic, he had this to say:
“It’s school playground stuff. The boy or girl will act strangely around the person they like. As soon as we like someone, it tends to be that our charisma and our wit and our fun, casual nature goes out the window — and this new, strange, awkward fumbling person shows up.”
I can also personally attest to this because there once was a lady who liked me so much she would laugh at all my jokes, and believe me, I crack jokes that make people groan or roll their eyes.
Now, this is not the be-all-end-all, but there was no way she could hide the fact that she was tripping when she was the only one who got caught laughing while others were trying to clean their ears out.
Hussey told Insider that a person who likes you will smile more readily, laugh louder and be more generally energetic when you’re around.
#5 They Think You’re Cool – Even when Others may Disagree
You probably hear this all the time, but love really is blind. According to Hussey, when a person has mutual feelings for you, you’ll notice that they are impressed by you and all you do.
Hussey said: “They want to know about you and what you’re into. They’re ready to be impressed by you because they’re building up this romantic image in their head.”
The dating expert also believes it is an excellent sign if the person can recall details from your old conversations – especially the men.
Believe me, we are terrible with details except where money is concerned. However, when we like someone, most of what that person says sticks, and we magically retrieve the information when needed.
#6 They’ll Try to Impress You – Often
A person who likes you will go the extra mile to make you feel at ease in their presence. You can count on them being on their best behavior because they’re trying to attract and keep your attention.
Naturally, they will also try to keep their less than impressive qualities away from you while the best parts will be projected. Some may go on and on about their achievements, while others may choose to wow you with gifts or thoughtful actions.
It is a clear sign that they are interested in you when they want you gushing over their best traits but be careful here because sometimes, all is not as it seems, and some may be posturing.
#7 They want Lots of Physical Contacts
Women get away with this easier because let’s face it, when a woman you may be interested in tells you to come closer for any reason, many men will not think twice about it.
It could be a random thing she wants; maybe to show you a meme she thinks is funny, but she will most likely initiate some kind of contact at that moment.
When this happens several times in a row, it is safe to assume you have someone who has mutual feelings of attraction to you.
With men, it’s a bit harder, in my opinion, since we try to present macho personalities to our women. A man might inch ever closer to a woman he likes without trying to make it obvious, but the more confident ones may simply go for it.
Either way, you can conclude that they like you if you move closer or initiate contact often, and they don’t pull away. Once they do, it is clear that they may not be as interested in you as you are in them.
Better luck next time.
#8 They Inadvertently Mirror Your Actions
Studies have shown that humans who like each other often do things in tandem without knowing it. It might be tricky to observe this behavior, but it’s a proven way to know how interested in you a person is.
If you’re like me and you are more of a critical person, I know you won’t find it easy to believe this, so here’s an experiment you can try.
When you’re with the person, fake a yawn or time one coming so they see you do it, then watch and see if they don’t do the same.
Obviously, it doesn’t work all the time, but seven times out of ten, I can bet that they will also yawn.
Not satisfied? Other things you can do include; crossing your arms to see if they follow suit, cracking your fingers, or walking in tandem.
Subtle signs like those say a lot, so you might want to tune in to that frequency.
Now that you know to tell if someone likes you, there is something else you should know.
If you like someone and are wondering if the feeling is mutual, it is essential that you not rush things but, at the same time, do not dawdle because people move on real quick.
You also want to make sure that a person exhibiting these signs has not been through this article and is playing you, so take some time to feel them out before you come out with that confession.
Never forget that if they say no, the floor will not open up to swallow you, and holding your breath won’t make you invisible, so make sure they check some boxes first.