Some people would rather hide their hickeys. But it makes sense that some may want to show them off, instead. Everyone is different, after all.
What is a hickey, though?
A hickey is also called a love bite. It is proof of passion. So, some may actually wear it as a badge of honor. However, it may not be appropriate for school or work. So, you must examine your motivations before you give in to this particular desire.
The love bite is caused by the breaking of blood vessels. Someone should have sucked your skin hard enough to cause this break.
Why give yourself a hickey?
Someone may look at you incredulously when you say you are looking for tips on giving yourself a hickey.
Do you really need to? Why?
Well, for some people, there is something overtly sexual about a hickey. It is like you have placed a stamp on yourself to tell others that you are “taken” and that someone is passionate about you that they are willing to give you one.
Is it normal to give yourself a hickey?
It probably depends on your purpose. You may add it to give yourself a little drama in your life. Every one of us needs this from time to time. And guess what? There is nothing wrong with that. However, you may start steering away from the idea if you get obsessed with the concept of a dream lover who does not exist.
Is it bad to give yourself a hickey?
Again, this depends on what purpose it serves. Hopefully, this is not going to be used for playing games with your significant other. You may not be ready for the fallout.
Sometimes, giving yourself a hickey is just a way to practice before you do it on your partner’s skin. Perhaps you are a perfectionist, waiting to mark your territory with a lusty love bite. However, some of the tips on this list are more on creating a fake hickey, though. It is also about ramping the mystery surrounding your sexual life.
7 Proven Techniques to Give Yourself a Hickey
1. Use Cupping Techniques
You know those little cupping things used for alternative medicine? Well, choose a cup with a believable size.
Use the cup to make a visible hickey on your desired body part.
These massage cups can easily recreate the type of love bite you want because this is the cup’s effect on the skin.
Be careful not to do it too hard because it may cause darker hickeys.
You should also know what you are doing because this can cause greater damage than what you plan to make.
The perfect circle the cups create should also be adjusted a little bit. You want a love bite, not an obviously unromantic bruise.
2. Try Sucking with a Soda Bottle
You can also try using a soda bottle to create the same sucking motion.
Perhaps tilting it a little while it takes it a pinch of your skin will take away the possible perfect circle it can make.
Press the soda bottle’s circular part on your chosen part. Perhaps you want to do it on your neck.
Let the bottle form a suction on the skin.
Keep it there for a few seconds to achieve the visible hickey you were going for.
3. Suck Your Skin with a Vacuum Extension
Yeah, the vacuum itself will be overkill, obviously. So, you need to make use of one of those extension tubes to give yourself a little love bite.
Do it gently.
You may not need just one of these.
Make a few little connecting ones to make the shape more realistic. Again, be careful.
4. Burn Yourself with a Curling Iron
You probably thought we will not go this far.
Anyway, this isn’t anything different from the other strategies that you have been introduced to.
You just need to understand how much pressure you can put before you stop pressing.
Heat up the curling iron. As in the vacuum attachment case, you may need a few connecting dots to create a realistic shape.
But here is the thing – you are burning yourself in the name of passion (or the appearance of one).
If you can try another, safer method, do so. A burn can create a scar. Do you really want one on your skin?
5. Apply makeup
For the artistically inclined ones, makeup may be your answer. More likely, a kiss mark is the result of broken capillaries. The effect will not be straightforward. There will be a blend of colors.
When you apply makeup, you must combine a few colors (purple, red, blue, etc.) Take a look at pictures of real hickeys and find all the possible colors that you can use.
Think about whether you want to make it look like it just happened – or if it happened a while back.
Be careful with using too many darker hues. The look may lean more towards bruise rather than kiss mark. You should also set the makeup using a hairspray.
Why should you use hairspray? Well, it is a less expensive way of setting the colors.
Instead of more expensive character makeup or body paints, a simple eyeshadow palette should do.
Keep away from water when you have decided on the no-pain hickey spot.
6. Give Yourself a Hard Pinch
This just may be the quickest and easiest way for you to create a break on your small superficial blood vessels.
Yes, I would like to emphasize the word “superficial” because you have nothing to worry about when you give yourself a love mark.
Set yourself for the pinch. Hold the pinch for a few seconds, a little more than ten seconds if possible.
Let go and check the mirror for how it looks. If it is still barely visible, you want to give it another one.
7. Suck Your Own Skin
Some of your erogenous zones can be easily reached by your own mouth. Before you practice working on your partner’s skin, try your own.
Sucking your thigh may not be the most pleasant position you could get yourself into, but it is doable. It is also easier to suck your arms or hand.
Love Bite FAQs
Q. Where is the best place to give yourself a hickey?
The best place to give yourself a hickey is your neck. It is the body part most associated with passionate biting. It will also make for a visible hickey. After all, why would you go through such lengths just to make one that nobody can see, anyway?
Other erogenous zones can also work.
Q. How long does it take to give yourself a hickey?
It will only take you 15 to 20 seconds to give yourself a hickey. Of course, this means that you should not let go of the suction.
Q. How do you give yourself a hickey for the first time?
It is up to you. You can try some of our suggestions from above. However, you can more likely try with easy to reach body parts, such as your hand or arm. The point with starting out is to see if you can master the technique.
Q. Can you die from a hickey on your breast?
It may sound like a joke, but a hickey can actually kill in very rare cases. If the person has a rare blood disorder or a clotting disease, then this can happen.
Some people like leaving hickeys on breasts for several reasons. Well, they are erogenous zones.
A man can inadvertently leave love bites on them as he sucks on the nipples or even the swells of the breasts.
They are also the best parts to leave territorial marks. If a woman goes on a date with another man and this other man sees the love marks, he knows that she had just recently gone on a date that reached at least the second base.
If your partner has no clotting issues, then you should be safe. However, it is unfortunate that it is not outside the realm of possibility for the breast area. So, you better stick to some languid licking and gentle suckling.
Q. When a man puts a hickey on your neck, does it mean he loves you and doesn’t want anyone else to have you?
It depends, really. Most likely, he did at the heat of the moment. He might have done it accidentally while the two of you have a passionate session in bed or in your car.
It is also possible that if he did knowingly and did not ask, he might have been marking his territory. This can be more possessive than loving, though.
If he asked if he could do it, he at least has some respect for you. He might even volunteer to have you give him one, too. However, so many things can be done in the heat of passion. He can even promise you the moon and the stars. It is what he does when the two of you are sobered up that means the most.
Of course, the two of you could have decided to get love bites as a couple. That is a decision that you can make as consenting adults. Nobody should judge you for that.
Q. How do you get rid of a hickey on your neck?
It is impossible to suck your own neck. So, you need something with a suction tip (vacuum attachment, small cups, soda bottle) to cut off the blood flow on the neck.
Once you have successfully broken a blood vessel, you can check if it has been done right.
Now it is also possible that you may change your mind. After all, the neck is a very visible body part. You may want to start the healing by placing a cold compress on the area. While you are letting the bruise heal, you may also decide to put a concealer on it. Make sure that the concealer has the same shade as your skin. Burns are more difficult to deal with as they will leave scars. You may need something more powerful to cover that dark purple bruise.
Q. How to give yourself a hickey on your leg?
This will take some acrobatics, but it is actually possible to do it on your own. Legs may not be the best places to put a hickey on, but they could be great practice parts. You can easily hide them under your pants and skirts, for one. You can also use your own mouth.
It would also be easy to use makeup in this area as it is easy to reach. You can control the blending of colors more easily than if you apply it on your neck while watching the mirror.